The Flower Girl is often a young relative between the ages of 3 and 7 years old…

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Choosing who should walk down the aisle with you is not as easy at it has been in the past. In the past, it has always been assumed that the father of the bride is to be the one...

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The Train Bearer or should I say Train Bearers (because they usually come in pairs) can be boys or girls or both…

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There are no set rules on how many attendants that you need to have for your wedding but there are some standard guidelines…

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The Ring Bearer should be a small boy between the ages of 3 and 7. He can be a closes…

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You have to give a Maid of Honor speech and don't know where to start? Begin with these 7 tips for writing a Maid of Honor speech.

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The Flower Girl is a special and unique part of the ceremony and she deserves a special invitation!

Many brides don't even ask the child directly, they ask her Mother who then in turn asks the child "would you like to be the Flower Girl in Aunt Susie's wedding?"

Wouldn't it be more special if you asked your favorite little girl yourself?

I came across this little cookie set and I thought it was just perfect - it asks the question...it is super cute...and hey - what kid doesn't like cookies?

You can find more information on Weddingish.com

And after you have asked her, don't forget to explain to her what the Flower Girl is, why it is important, what her responsibilities are etc.

~Flower Girl Responsibilities

~Dressing The Flower Girl

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As a highly evolved, yet completely realistic, woman, I'll be the first to admit that when you place 10 females in a room, you'll wind up with 25 different opinions. Here's the dilemma.

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The groom's parents generally don't have an enormous amount of responsibility unless they…

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The Bride's Father's main responsibility is to act as host of the event…

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The Groomsmen are usually the groom's brothers, close relatives, the bride's brothers and…

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The mother of the bride's main responsibility is to serve as the official hostess at the wedding reception…

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Sometimes the bride may ask close friends and relatives to handle other duties…

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In the old days, the Bridesmaids were literally unmarried "maids" that unmarried men could…

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Exciting Shower Ideas and Wines for Wedded Bliss

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Create an Heirloom Gift with an Original Painting in Oil...

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Asking your bridesmaids to be in your wedding should be special…

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Discussion of bridal party gift ideas...

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Forums | General | Help! Please!!

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Kayla	Posted - 28 January 2000 13:28 Sorry to sound so desperate, but I am!!! Here's the problem: I have asked my aunt to be my MOH and 3 of my closest girlfriends to be my bridesmaids. My fiance on the other hand has asked his brother to be his Best Man and his other brother (not Daryl ha ha) to be his groomsman. And thats it. I told him that he needs to pick 2 more of his friends so that we would each have 4 on our side. Well he says that he has too many friends and cant pick just 2 because he would leave someone out. Then he goes to tell me that he only wants his brothers up there with him because they are the closest to him and thinks it should only be family. Now you can see my problem. I dont want to force him to ask 2 of his friends (although I might!!) and I can NOT univite 2 of my friends, and if I kept them then there would be the issue of him having 2 groomsmen and me having 4 bridesmaids!! I do not know what to do, this is soooo not funny!!!!
Kristin	Posted - 28 January 2000 13:33 I don't think it matters that the sides aren't even. The important thing is, you each have the people up there that you love the most and you want close to you during such an important moment. The chances that that will be exactly the same number of people for both of you are pretty slim! Don't worry about it looking funny -- or if you're worried about them looking so uneven, maybe have them stand in staggered positions. There is an article in the "In Style" Weddings magazine that is out right now that has Peri Gilpin's wedding in it -- and her bridesmaids and groomsmen are staggered all over -- on both sides. It looks nice, and not so "his side - her side" Good luck!
EM	Posted - 28 January 2000 13:47 This is not uncommon for their to be odd numbers in the bridal party. Its actually better that there be more girls than guys because the guys can walk one girl up & then go back for the next girl around the side while the other guys walks the second girl up. Then they just repeat the process until they're all up there. As for who's standing up there - you'll have to negotiate with your fiance & tell him that if he's really 'uncomfortable' with your bridesmaids there or is he just uncomfortable with having anyone but his two guys there. Tell him how you feel and try to come to some compromise on who stands and who sits. Hope that helps!
CK	Posted - 28 January 2000 13:48 I'm 3 BMs and 4 groomsmens in my wedding. if you're worried about being escorted down the aisle the groomsmen can come out with the groom and you BM can walk by themselves. after the ceremony 2 BMs can escort on grooms men. I will have to do that (only in reverse) in my wedding. I'm not worried about it at all.
Lori	Posted - 28 January 2000 14:12 I think a bride needs much more support than the groom (before, during and after the wedding) anyway. You have so much more to do to get ready, so having more friends and family to help you just makes sense. Just go with it!! :) Lori
sloan	Posted - 28 January 2000 14:35 Try to negotiate with him. I completely understand your need for symmetry and even numbers. I feel the same way. But, he can't be equally close to 10 different people. Urge him to choose two more...what about his dad as an option and maybe a cousin to whom he's close? That would keep it all in the family. Just try talking to him. Besides, friends generally understand that they can't all be in your wedding. If there are other friends that he really wants to include, have them be ushers or do readings.
Malachite	Posted - 28 January 2000 21:39 If he feels so strongly that he cannot choose between his other friends and you are stuck on symmetry consider having ushers... by this I mean he can ask more guys than you have girls and their position is to escort people to their seats. They don't have to stand up with you but will still be part of the wedding. Then only the two he chooses would stand up to even thing out and the others would sit on the second row. Another tactic you could take is that most bride mags recommend having 1 groomsman/usher per 45 guests, maybe you can get some leeway there. _Mal
Kayla	Posted - 31 January 2000 15:1 Excellent idea about Ushers! I ddint even think about that!! I will definately suggest that. I will ask him to pick his 2 closest, and then the other 2 or so can be ushers. Perfect!!! Thanks guys! Wish me luck.....

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The Best Man is usually the groom's brother, cousin, best friend or sometimes…

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The Maid of Honor is usually the bride's closest sister. Otherwise, she could be…

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